Do you dare to open the box?
Do you dare to be gentle with something so coarse?
Over the course of my 40 years, I have received many gifts wrapped in sandpaper.
Some of them I ran from.
Some of them I fought.
And some of them, I unwrapped gently and carefully, so that I was rewarded with the most amazing gift.
The largest gift wrapped in sandpaper that I ever received was my relationship with my former boss. It was a conflict that I was unwilling and afraid to unwrap. It sat there between us for almost 2 years, before I finally ran from it because it was too painful to touch.
Unfortunately, it followed me around even after I left because the gift wasn’t, in fact, sitting between us, it was sitting within me. Finally, when I found the courage and the right tools to do the unwrapping, what I found underneath was amazing and magical. It was the gift of growth. The gift of a deeper connection with myself, and a deeper connection with all the people I interact with on a daily basis. It was sunshine, and laughter, and ease, and tears, and more...
I still receive gifts wrapped in sandpaper all the time.
Sometimes, I want to run from them.
Sometimes, I want to fight them.
And most often, I unwrap them gently and carefully, so that I experience the connection and sunshine underneath.
Your conflict, is also a gift wrapped in sandpaper. There is beauty and sunshine lying underneath when you too find the courage and the right tools to unwrap it.
If I can be one of those tools, I would love to be there for you when you do your unwrapping.
P.S. This idea of a “gift wrapped in sandpaper” comes from the esteemed Lisa Nichols.