“You are not your body,” is a phrase or mantra that I repeat to myself a lot these days.
A few months ago, I was attending the Landmark Advanced Course here in Seattle, and was called up to the front to be coached. (At the time I wasn’t up for it, nor did I really think I needed it.) Anyway, during my coaching the facilitator asked me if my husband and I were planning to have children, and then I started to cry. (Little did he know that I had just had surgery for a miscarriage 2 days prior.) When I told him that, he was taken back at first, but then honored me for my courage in being in the course. Then he went on to tell me something that I had never thought to be true.
I define myself by my body.
“Holy Crap! Is this just me?” I asked myself.
When I engaged in the conversation with the women I spoke of above, it made me realize that I may not be the only one. How many of us do the same thing? How many of us define ourselves by our bodies, whatever that may look like?
Some of you may think that it doesn’t really seem like such a big deal, but I have to disagree.
Defining ourselves by how we look limits us. It keeps us from embracing new ideas and new possibilities. It causes us to morph our personalities to match our physical presence, or to compensate and change our personalities because of how we look.
So, I ask you to break free from your body.
- You are not the short woman. You are a woman who happens to be short.
- You are not the overweight woman. You are the woman who happens to be overweight.
- You are not the tall woman. You are a woman who happens to be tall.
- You are not the diabetic woman. You are the woman who happens to have diabetes.
- You are not the MS woman. You are a woman who happens to have MS.
You are not your body.