I am part of a French book club. We meet every month for 2 hours to talk about a book that we have been “assigned” for the month. It’s a way to practice not only our French reading skills, but also our French conversations skills.
I am not quite through this month’s book, and realized that I will be unable to attend our next meeting due to conflicts.
And you know what happened?
My motivation to continue with the book did a NOSEDIVE. A serious one.
Prior to knowing that I wouldn’t attend, I was dutifully reading every day, and now, I haven’t read for days.
Has something similar happened to you?
You are super motivated to start something or re-start something, and then poof, your motivation plummets?
My problem is lack of external accountability.
Yes, I could be accountable to myself, but it seems that other people do such a better job of it.
Do you know why? Because I am driven to connect and I am also driven to look good in other people’s eyes. It’s a combination of my need for connection and my need to be and feel valued.
That is why I set myself up to succeed as much as possible.
That is why I am part of a French book club.
That is why I have a running partner.
That is why I have a business coach.
That is why I am part of a mastermind.
I know that they will hold me to my commitments and integrity, even when I don’t hold myself to them. And what’s more, there is no differential in power between us, like with a boss-employee, or teacher-student, or parent-child relationship. I am not worried about being admonished for not stepping up. They are in my corner with compassion and inspiration (sometimes without even knowing it.)
Who is helping hold you accountable? Not just to your goals, but to who you are committed to BEING, not matter what happens.