Everyone complains and there is a wide spectrum of how often we complain. No matter how much you complain, your complaints benefit you.
Complaining is about validation and feeding the ego. When we complain we are looking to fill a void and hope to fill that void with acknowledgement, attention, or sympathy.
The problem with complaining is that it doesn’t get you anywhere. Your circumstances after you complain are the same, even if you feel a little lighter after getting it off your chest.
One thing you can do instead of complain, is to problem solve. Take action! Be bold!
Problem solvers try to take control of the situation through their actions. They shift out of pain, and into power.
Another way to approach your complaints is to practice gratitude. When we show gratitude, we shift our perspective with regard to negative situations in our lives.
Here is my challenge to you.
- No complaining for 30 days (both out loud and in your head)
- When you feel like complaining, create an action plan to solve the situation.
- Practice Gratitude